Why the Relationship with Your Therapist Matters More Than You Think
If you’ve ever sat with someone and felt like they just didn’t get it, you know how fast that can shut you down. In therapy, that kind of disconnect can stop progress before it even begins. That’s why the relationship between you and your therapist is everything.
It’s not about finding someone who has all the answers. It’s about finding someone who helps you feel safe enough to even ask the hard questions in the first place.
Finding a Therapist Can Feel Like Dating
Just like dating, it takes a few meetings to really get a feel for whether the connection is there. You might feel some discomfort at first, and that doesn’t always mean something is wrong. It might mean something important is beginning. It takes a few conversations, a little time to settle in, and some space to notice how you feel to determine if it’s a good fit.
I always encourage clients to give it a few sessions. If something feels off, bring that into the room. If you’re not sure how you feel about the therapist, say it. That honesty is part of what therapy is all about. You deserve to feel comfortable and supported in that space.
You Are Not a Diagnosis
You are a full person with depth, emotion, and history. You are not just a set of symptoms. I care more about who you are than what your file says. You deserve to be seen, not picked apart. Understood, not managed.
Therapy Should Be a Space Where You Can Be Real.
Not every session will be easy. That’s just part of the process. But you should never feel like you have to shrink yourself or sugarcoat your truth. If you’re wondering whether you’re too much or not enough, therapy should be the one place where that question can finally rest.
It’s where you get to speak freely, even if the words come out messy or unsure.
You Deserve a Good Fit.
It’s okay to want a therapist who gets you. It’s okay to ask questions. And it’s okay to decide something’s not working. That doesn’t mean therapy isn’t for you. It just means you’re looking for the right person to walk beside you. If it turns out I’m not that person, I will help you find someone who is. That’s not failure. That’s honoring your healing.
What to Look For in a Strong Connection
You feel like you can breathe a little easier in the session
You don’t feel judged
You notice your guard slowly coming down
You feel safe to show the parts of you that usually stay hidden
Here’s the Truth…
Healing happens in relationships. The hurt you carry didn’t come from nowhere. It usually formed in the context of connection, or lack of it. So it makes sense that repair would happen through connection too. Therapy is a relationship, and it can be a powerful one.
If we work together, I want you to feel like you’re not alone in the room. Because you’re not.
